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Emotional Support Animal

How to Manage the loss of an Emotional Support Animal

An emotional support animal provides therapeutic relief to its owner through the comfort of its companionship. A person can quickly develop a strong bond with an ESA while playing, spending a lot of time together, cuddling with them, enjoying them, etc. 

But when a person or a pet you love dies, it could be devastating and shattering because we lose the support system that makes us happy. All you need is to keep calm and learn how to cope with this grief. Deep down, you know that little soul will not be with you for a lifetime now. 

The grief of losing a pet can lead you to feelings of sadness and loneliness. You might also feel guilty, ashamed, angry, or lonely. Working on your senses after losing a pet is necessary. Losing a pet feels like the end of the world to their owners. But with the help of this guide, you will get through this!

Dealing with the unexpected loss of an ESA

It’s natural to feel broken–losing an ESA is like losing a family member. The unexpected death of your ESA is devastating. You spend time with your fur babies, feeding, playing, and caring for them like parents. The sudden loss of your pet may trigger your anxiety, panic attack, or feeling of great grief. You might start to feel angry at yourself or think you Could have done more to prevent this loss? 

This grieving process may be difficult and painful, but this duration lets you deal with your emotions and answer tough questions. Don’t be afraid to be sad and accept this reality. 

Coping after losing an ESA with the help of a new ESA

Pets are not just a dog or a cat; they are friends, family members, or a sole support system. Getting a new Emotional Support Animal will not replace your previous one, as they were unique and special in their way, but a new ESA may help you deal with your loss. These animals provide you with emotional support to deal with your loss with the comfort of their companionship. Even if you are struggling with depression or lose enthusiasm to leave the house after losing your pet, you need someone to talk to; an ESA could help. 

Consider joining a pet loss support group Free of expense.

Suppressing your grief and refusing yourself time to grieve will not help; things get worse in the long run. The situation and its effects vary from person to person; some prefer to mourn alone, while others need the support of sympathetic friends or family members to overcome their grief. When your pet is not just your friend but your sole companion, emotional support animal, or helper, it’s natural to feel heartbroken and alone after your loss. Talking to a person experiencing the same grief may help you.

Some online pet grief support groups are the best option to show your grief and feel better by talking to others dealing with the loss of a pet. These groups are safe to talk about your loss or sorrow, speak to other ESA owners, or listen to suggestions on managing the loss of an ESA. Feel free to discuss your situation and get complete guidance when required.

The difficult time before the loss of an ESA

Pet euthanasia (the painless killing of a patient suffering); is the kindest option for them; when your little companion is suffering. You can call the veterinarian to settle down to provide better end-of-life care. It is not easy to even think about this for your loved one.

Besides the painkillers, make sure your ESA is as comfortable as possible. To ease them, support them, and believe you are doing all this to ease their passing.

Making memories: help your ESA live their best life!

Realizing that you do your best to give your pet all you can helps you deal with the grief of losing an ESA. Joyful memories and the wonderful times you spent with your loved one are something you admire your whole life. 

Every pet deserves dignity and respect for the end of its life. The final destination should be a beautiful reward for your pet’s life. Make sure you select a place you visit with your ESA. 


Take as much time as required to heal. This healing journey is prolonged but worth it. It is normal to grieve; it’s an individual experience. Take your time getting over your ESA. Do not let anyone judge or dictate to you what to do or what not to do. It was never just a dog, it was yours, and you know how to mourn over his departure. Your relation with your ESA is the thing only you can understand; no need to explain it to others.

You will never know on your own the pain until you notice the quality of their lives starts to diminish, and you find yourself begging for dear life. Your dog will tell you when it’s time, then permit them to let go. Accept the upcoming grief and let them rest in peace.

Keep both past and present ESA in mind.

This action offers a better way to cope with the grief of losing your pet and allows you to live your memories again. If you are finding a way to live those memorable moments again, here are some ideas to consider:

  • Don’t try to change your present ESA; accept them as it is.
  • In honor of your loved one, write what you feel without them.
  • Try to revisit those places you were used to visiting with the past pet.
  • Plant a flower or plant dedicated to your pet.
  • Never take anything for granted; enjoy the company of your new ESA and keep a photo album well in advance.
  • Consider creating a social account for your pet and doing activities that revolve around the pet.

Hold onto the memories and let the guilt of losing the pet go.

Holding a party and recalling all the good times, and talking about your ESA can be the way to show your grief. At this moment, you may feel relieved and happy. Memories can hurt but in a better way. It is better to have memorable moments than not to have a pet at all. 

It’s common to feel guilty after losing your ESA and wondering whether you could have done more. It’s human nature. It is hard to avoid these feelings and thoughts, but it is crucial not to stick here! Go through your sorrow, and you will start to heal.

Bottom line

The pain of losing a pet often feels overwhelming. The grief you go through will depend on factors such as your personality, your age, your pet’s age, and the circumstances of their death. Experiencing the pain of loss is an inevitable part of having a pet; there are various ways to cope with it; open up about it with other ESA owners, express what you feel by discussing or writing it down, and give yourself the time to overcome. Consult with My ESA Doctor’s medical professional for counselling if needed.

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